You’re not alone. That was the one coherent sentence my brain managed to come up with when I was lying in bed this morning trying to go back to sleep. A person spends a lot of time trying to go back to sleep when they have a houseful of teenagers on holiday break from school keeping her awake.
Things in life have a way of making us think we’re alone, don’t they? The failing grade, the divorce, that challenging role of being a stepparent, losing a job, giving birth for the first time. Single parenting, moving to a new city, being the new kid. But you’re not alone. You’re not. You’re not. You’re not.
But it really feels like it. I feel like I’m the only person with insomnia and other sleep disorders who is awake at a terribly early hour in the morning with no direction, no plan, no nothing. I can’t find my notes for The Caged Bird. I don’t know what I want to do to fix the parts of that book that are lacking. I have but a small number of people that I can count on and it’s way too hot in this house.
We do a lot of things to feel better about ourselves. We curl, cut, color, and comb our hair. On days when we feel like lying around the house in our sweatpants, we put on nice clothes and venture out into the world. Okay, so some days we lie around the house in our sweatpants when the mood hits us, but not every day.
We also give up a lot of things to improve our mood when we look in the mirror. Bread, chocolate, sometimes food altogether.
Yet, sometimes, what we really need aren’t to deprive ourselves or to put on a costume to make us feel better. Sometimes, we simply need to re-frame some things. We need to be realistic and honest. So…here goes.
Do you ever feel like you're facing things alone? Consider the negative things you say to yourself and then re-frame them into something more positive.