When my husband and I first started going out, we lived an hour away from each other. It was torture to be so far away from someone that I really, really liked. Work, kids, and the price of gas meant we didn’t see each other very often. Eventually, we found closer living quarters. And while it wasn’t always easy, there were some great things that helped us stay close.
Whether the long distance is between you and your soulmate, relatives, or good friends, there are all kinds of wonderful things you can use to keep close despite long distances.
1. The all night phone calls. With the advances in technology, people rarely use their phones for actual talking. Sometimes though, you need to hear that person’s voice. I know hearing his voice had a way of making everything a little bit better.
2. Writing letters. And I’m not talking e-mails either. I mean, real letters written on actual paper that you had to wait by the mailbox to get. It was like Christmas every time a letter was in the box. I still experience this kind of excitement when I get a letter in the mail from my sister or best friend from high school.
3. Meeting in the middle. When you’re separated by many miles from that special someone, meeting somewhere in the middle is a great way to stay in touch. Just this past summer, we met my mom and her husband for lunch in Florida. Where none of us live.
4. Texting. Honestly, I’m not sure how hubby and I managed without texting when we were dating and living away from one another. With this kind of technology, I can stay in touch with loved ones all day long. It’s not the same as chatting over a cup of coffee, but it’s still good.
5. Speaking of chatting over coffee…how about FaceTime? I’ve used this a few times to stay in touch with my sister. We used to love going out for coffee. Now that we live a few thousand miles away from each other, we periodically set a coffee date via FaceTime. She goes to her local coffee shop and I go to mine, order drinks, and voila. We’re practically in the same room while we visit!
6. Exploring the world. I miss out on a lot of events with my niece and nephew. I’m not at their birthday parties or school events. But I am always thinking about them. And since I travel a lot, I incorporate my love for them into my travels. At every new place I go to, I pick up a little something for them and ship it to their house. Whether it’s specialty chocolates or a shirt with the name of the state on it, I box it up and head to the nearest post office. It lets them know that even though I can’t physically be present, they are always in my heart.
7. Post cards. These are great to send on the fly when you’re out and about. Sometimes just having something tangible from that person you care about is like a hug from them.
8. Making the drive. Fortunately for my husband and me, we were close enough to drive to one another when we were dating. And every now and then, that’s exactly what he’d do. After a long day of work, he would drive the hour to where I was staying and we’d go out for cheesecake. It broke up the days of being apart from him and created a tradition (sharing cheesecake) that we still hold dear, fifteen years later.
9. Pictures. When my son and his girlfriend were separated by many miles due to him being at boot camp, they would FaceTime one another and take pictures together. I’m not quite sure how they did it, but those photos spanned miles as they held their hands up to the screen to make one heart.
10. Cards. Whether you make them yourself or find great ones at the store, dropping a card in the mail lets someone know you’re thinking of them. It doesn’t have to be Christmas or a birthday to send a card either.
Long distance relationships aren’t always easy. At least they aren’t for me. But putting some fun things into practice has helped me to remember that just because distance separates two people doesn’t mean the relationship is lost. It just means you have to work harder to keep that spark alive.